I’m going to pretend I coined that phrase ‘Good Selfish’. I haven’t heard it anywhere before and I used it to answer a message I received today. If you said it/say it…fine, just let me live in my bubble.
Seriously though, do you get what I mean by that? I mean that it’s ok to take care of you first! It’s ok to carve out ‘me time’ in your daily schedule to take care of you whether it’s to exercise, read or just be alone with your thoughts. Goodness it’s even ok to do all three! Time and time again we are told not to be selfish, to put others first, to give up our wishes and desires so that others can have theirs. Does this sound right to you? When does it become your time!?!
As children we are told to be selfish is a bad thing and in a lot of cases it is. To be concerned with yourself above all others or lacking any consideration for others is, well, selfish. What I am saying is we should do for ourselves just as good as we do for others. If you don’t take care of you how the hell can you expect to take care of anyone else. If you run yourself ragged supporting and pacifying your family, what’s left for you at the end of the day?
I have learned over the years that it is ok to take time to nurture me. I workout, I eat well and I foster personal growth so that I can be healthy enough to help my family when I am needed. I have the mental and physical energy needed to support the family unit. It took me a lot of years to get here but now that I realize life will not fall apart around me just because I chose to look after me, I will never look back.
I wish there was a magic pill to give to every person out there with low self-esteem; to teach them to take care of themselves first, to respect themselves enough to treat themselves well. If we all loved our own selves just think of the love we could share with everyone else! This is hard to do…to love our selves I mean. It makes us feel uncomfortable and self-conscious to be confident when really it’s ok to project these qualities. Those that reject this haven’t evolved emotionally yet, those that respect this have a good sense of self. Those are the people you want to surround yourself with! Now go out there and be ‘good selfish’ .
You only have one life, when will you choose to live it? I chose, now it’s your turn.
how have you changed to be ‘good selfish’?
share how you take care of you so that you are able to take care of others
in ‘good selfish’ and health